Who Touched My Robe?

What would you say if someone asked you what your gifts in life are?  Would you say; Service, Care giving,  Praying, Comforting, Healing, Communicating, Educating, Counseling?  Perhaps something creative like  music, decorating, cooking, sewing, crafting, building etc.  or maybe you have a heart for children, young adults, inner city kids, financially supporting causes like widows, orphans, the homeless or natural disasters?

If you do know what your gifts and talents are, do you use them to serve yourself or to serve others?  Chances are if you get that feeling that you don’t know your purpose in life, or feel empty and unfulfilled you aren’t using your gifts to serve somebody other than yourself.

I want to draw attention to a scripture in Mark, when Jesus was in the midst of giving away what God had placed in Him…

A woman who had suffered a condition of hemorrhaging for twelve years—a long succession of physicians had treated her, and treated her badly, taking all her money and leaving her worse off than before—had heard about Jesus. She slipped in from behind and touched his robe. She was thinking to herself, “If I can put a finger on his robe, I can get well.” The moment she did it, the flow of blood dried up. She could feel the change and knew her plague was over and done with.

30 At the same moment, Jesus felt energy discharging from him. He turned around to the crowd and asked, “Who touched my robe?” 31 His disciples said, “What are you talking about? With this crowd pushing and jostling you, you’re asking, ‘Who touched me?’ Dozens have touched you!” 32-33 But he went on asking, looking around to see who had done it. The woman, knowing what had happened, knowing she was the one, stepped up in fear and trembling, knelt before him, and gave him the whole story.  34 Jesus said to her, “Daughter, you took a risk of faith, and now you’re healed and whole. Live well, live blessed! Be healed of your plague.”

Mark 5:25-33 (MSG)

This is such a powerful scripture for so many reasons and I’ve often heard it used when someone is preaching on, the faith of the woman who touched Jesus’ robe, however for this point, I want to draw attention to the highlighted portion, when Jesus felt the energy leave him when the woman touched him…

After Jesus says “who touched my robe?”  The disciples almost scoff at his remark saying Uh, what do you mean pal, there are tons of people touching you!  But the disciples didn’t understand what Jesus was saying, there were dozens of people pushing, pulling, grabbing and reaching out to Jesus so it wasn’t an issue of someone merely touching him, He’d felt energy leaving from Him, or the New King James version says “And Jesus, immediately knowing in Himself that power had gone out of Him…” 

Eventually the woman confessed the story to Him and He commended her for her faith and sent her off to live a blessed life, which is amazing in and of itself, But why do you think Jesus was able to feel the power leaving Him?  What was the power that was leaving Him?  And how did this power leave Him?

  • The gift was healing, and it’s power was a gift to be given away, and only when it was given away by faith did He feel it leave his very being.  The power was faith, was in Him by faith and left Him by faith.
  • This healing could not have affected this woman, for one if she didn’t have the faith to receive it, but also if Jesus didn’t intend on freely giving it away in faith to the woman.

Jesus walked this earth and freely gave away all that he had, there wasn’t one need He wasn’t ready and willing to fill.  He had a passion that caused the gifts that were in Him to actively seek out the faith in a person whom would be willing to receive what He was giving.  It would be as an analogy of His hands being on fire and He was constantly searching for an ice bath to submerge them in to cool them off!

Whatever your gifts are, did you know they are meant to be given away?  Even further than that, they are meant to be given away in faith, faith that whom ever they reach that it will impact and change lives for the better.  Only when we give our talents and gifts away, will we see the gift become even stronger than before.

How often do we do things out of obligation and not passion?  How often do we turn away the needs of others because we “don’t have time” or capacity to deal with it because our busy lives have taken up too much of our thoughts, money, time and energy?

How often do you truly open your eyes on the journey of life and look around you to breathe in your surroundings and ask yourself what you have to give and how you can effectively give it away?

If you are a parent or a grandparent you probably understand that our children/grandchildren should be our number one mission field, yet how often are we just too tired to deal with them, and fill their ever nagging needs or take the time to communicate properly with them, teach them, spend time with them, laugh with them, understand them, all because we pour ourselves into so many other empty things day to day?  This may be offensive, but even those “spiritual” or “worthy causes” and things we tangle ourselves up in are not always a positive thing, if they are getting more attention than God, our spouse or our kids and making us crabby, ugly or distant from those most important in our lives.  – Oh yes I did just go there!

I pray that you will be sparked to ask those questions in your soul and that just as I’ve been spurred on, that you will begin to seek after a heart that gives away the gifts inside of you, so passionately and deeply that you feel the power leaving the depths of your spirit to reach and fill a need somewhere to someone so much so that you have to say “Who touched my robe?”

Be blessed, favored and highly annointed for the ministry of life,

Rheanna

Suggested Reading:

Beyond Talent – John Maxwell

The Minister’s Life of Obedience – Windgate

‘Til Death Do Us Part?

Falling in love is easy.  It seems we fall in and out of love with people as we would a favorite pair of shoes or chocolate cake….mmmm that sounds good, I need a piece of chocolate cake…okay so where was I, yes love, what is this epidemic of love and why doesn’t it last?  Why is it that we seem to fall in love so easily but especially this day in age we can’t seem to make it last?

Well lets look at the word “Love”  what does it really mean to love someone?  Do we love our husband or wife when we have those gushy heartfelt feelings for them?  Do those butterflies in our stomache or our racing heart indicate that we love them?  What about that season of our relationship when our spouse can do no wrong, and we enjoy being around them every minute of the day, that must mean we truly love them.

“The person meant for you, is the person who will love you even when there’s no reason to love you.” – Unknown

I took the liberty of looking up the definition of the word “love” in the dictionary, and what I found disappointed me, the reference of the word love is in a noun form, and the definitions range from “a feeling of warm personal attatchment, to a sexual passion or desire.”   Excuse me for saying so but that’s not LOVE, that’s LUST!

It doesn’t take much to feel a sexual passion or desire for someone else, I mean just look at your TV or favorite clothing magazine, they even know this, that’s why half naked people are plastered all over for you to see, because it appeals to the human emotion. Take a look at pop stars, I’ve seen grown men ad women bawling their eyes out because this pop star touched their hand, I mean it’s pretty obvious that we allow ourselves to become personally attached to pretty much anyone that can appeal to our emotions, so c’mon really, this is our definition of love?

I will say that those passing feelings are important, and I believe can and should be a part of your marriage, but they don’t last on their own, and when those gushy feelings go, it’s not an indicator of “falling out of love” with someone, it’s indicating that the small stuff is ending, and the largeness of marriage is beginning, and the largeness of marriage takes work, sacrifice, self-lessness, compromise, humility, grace, forgiveness and faith.  (Really this applies to any deep relationship however I’m just touching on marriage in this post.)

There is a chapter in the bible when Jesus was dealing with the disciples’ objections to the stipulations of marriage.  Up to the point that Christ walked, the law of Moses deemed it okay to divorce your wife and provided the process on how to do it.  Wanting to badger Jesus, the pharisees asked him the question whether it was permissable to divorce your wife or not, and Jesus basically said, no, God’s design was for the institution of a man and woman to join in marriage was meant to be a life long covenant and that’s what Christ wanted to restore.  He made the exception in dealing with adultery and you can read more on that in Matthew 19, but other than adultery, He said that he was restoring the original intent of marriage.  The disciples were very discouraged by this statement…. but I love Jesus’ response to them….

10 Jesus’ disciples objected, “If those are the terms of marriage, we’re stuck. Why get married?”

11-12 But Jesus said, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked—or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you’re capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it.”  (Matthew 19:10-12 MSG)

I remember when my husband and I first got married, and every time he’d say or do something that made me mad, I would instantly go to that place in my mind that shut down and assumed we needed to just get a divorce.  We’d enter those stressful seasons where just the sound of him blowing his nose sent me into a irritable fog, and I read it as an indicator that I just didn’t love him anymore and it was time to move on.  See I grew up in brokenness and assumed that every good thing ended at some point.  It wasn’t until God began to show me the truth about what it meant to love, that I realized I had the ability to love through hard times and pain, and as a matter of fact, that’s when love in it’s truest form was being lived out.  Love is in fact a verb, an action verb, it’s the act of giving a person what he/she needs or wants when they don’t deserve it.  It’s easy to love a person that’s loveable…

Luke 6:

31-34 “Here is a simple rule of thumb for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you; then grab the initiative and do it for them! If you only love the lovable, do you expect a pat on the back? Run-of-the-mill sinners do that. If you only help those who help you, do you expect a medal? Garden-variety sinners do that. If you only give for what you hope to get out of it, do you think that’s charity? The stingiest of pawnbrokers does that.

35-36 “I tell you, love your enemies. Help and give without expecting a return. You’ll never—I promise—regret it. Live out this God-created identity the way our Father lives toward us, generously and graciously, even when we’re at our worst. Our Father is kind; you be kind. (MSG)

Just think, if Jesus asks us to treat our enemies with such grace and mercy, how do you think we should be treating the one we’ve promised our hearts to for life?  And might I add that sometimes when we are in the thick of battle in our marriage, it seems that our spouse is our enemy, so even more so this verse applies!

I want to very briefly venture through a typical wedding vow, this may have not been your exact wedding vow but you may have had some version of this to your spouse at your wedding….

I Jon take you Jane to be my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward…

For better or worse –  It’s easy to love someone when they’re at their best, but what about when the two of you are growing at a different pace and don’t relate to or understand one another?  Or how about when you’re in the middle of the stress of life and there’s alot of responsibility and not alot of fun?  How about when you disagree on seemingly everything?  Will it be as easy when you and your spouse aren’t spring chickens anymore and your spouse is growing hair out of his ears, or gravity takes it’s toll on your wife’s body after children and she’s not a young hot bod anymore?

In sickness and in health –  what if the sickness is a thyroid disease and your spouses weight begins to grow or plummet?  What if the sickness is terminal?  How about mental or emotional sickness?  Eating disorders, paralyzation, struggles with alcohol, depression, social or general anxiety, and the list goes on…

In good times and in bad – We all know how much fun marriage is when we’re in good times, but what about those bad times?  Do they last?  Is it possible to love someone during a bad time?  Bad times are different for every couple, but when you find yourself in the middle of a season that you would refer to as a “bad time”  how do you handle that?  What should our response be?  You feel lost, lonely, forgotten, taken advantage of, tired, bored, un-loved, un-cared for, what do you do?  Does this part of the promise we gave to our spouse really apply to even those darkest and lowly of places?

There is no cut and dry answer to these questions, but they are questions that we all come face to face with.  I will say that from experience, the more my husband and I go through in life together instead of giving up, the stronger and closer we become.  He is my very best friend, and it’s not because we just magically get along or always see eye to eye, or are 100% compatible, it’s because we’ve resolved to live an excellent life in all areas including our marriage.  As a matter of fact, I know when we hit those seasons of our relationship that seem so lonely and dark and I feel like giving up and running away, that we’re about to enter into a whole new level of our marriage and it’s always greater than the former level.  Remember that tough times don’t last but tough people and tough marriages do!

  • A very wise friend of mine said one time that her husband and her didn’t consider marriage to be 50/50 it has to be 100/100.  Each of you giving 100% of your love, trust, forgiveness, sacrifice, humility and service to one another to make it work.

When you feel that you and your spouse are on a different path, you can’t relate, you no longer like the same things, your’e not the same anymore, remember that we all grow differently, and the two of you will always grow apart, it’s what makes you human, the key is as you are on your own journeys, to continue to find eachother in the midst of it all, just the way you found eachother the first time.  Appreciate your ever growing differences, instead of fighting for your own way, find the lesson in learning from the other person, embrace their uniqueness, shoot a smile across the room when chaos is breaking out with the kids to let the other know you’re on their side, allow God to open your heart and mind to new possibilities and perspectives.

Dare I say to you that maybe you’re the one that needs to change, not the spouse!!  Live your life to serve, to truly love your spouse and find your friendship through everything, find a way to relate to laugh, to live, don’t give up. When the season is dark, know that there is hope, God always makes things turn for good for those who love Him, dark times don’t last.  Enjoy the journey, you only get one.

It really discourages me when I see people hopping from relationship to relationship, in eager hopes that this next one will offer all that they’ve dreamed of.  Thinking the grass is always greener, only to realize that no matter who you are with, you will always hit a point of work, it takes work to love others and love yourself.  You have to be determined to get through the tough times if you want the great times to last, and those great times don’t come for free, the path of the great times comes through the tough times!

I have a good friend of mine who said something quite funny but so very true  “If you have a King/Queen, don’t shuffle the deck, you might just end up with a Joker!”

I will not pretend to know your current situation or your past situations, but I encourage you to use divorce and giving up as a very last resort.  Take your worries, your hurts and your fears to the Lord and let him heal you.  He’s there to fill you up, because your spouse was never meant to be your source of feeling complete, God has to be your source, if you look to your marriage to fulfill you and keep you sustained, you will always be disappointed.  Let God show you what it means to be whole, and allow your spouse to be your best friend on your journey….

God bless you and your marriage, there is nothing more powerful than unity!

 

Suggested Reading:

Fit to Be Tied – Hybels

For Women Only – Shaunti Feldhahn

For Men Only – Shaunti Feldhahn

The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted – Dr. Gary Chapman

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